I met a friend and she was telling me "I'm not ready to get married coz I have not met the one" *YAWN*
Like, seriously, where and when will you ever meet "the one".
Living in Malaysia, is the toughest.
Why? Coz we have A LOT of western influence in us as well as the eastern.
Its harder, if you are a Muslim. why? Here's why, ladies and gentleman...
Because of the western influence, we learn about all these "worldly" things. We want to be rich and powerful. But, at the same time, we are Malaysians too. We are born to be gentle and subtle and soft. At the same time, we are Muslims, so we have our limitations on certain things. The problem with us is we are trying so hard to balance ALL these.
1) For some certain reason, we really really REALLY care about a person's position. It really matters how much money he is making, what position he has, what car he drives, how big the house is and the list goes on and on...
2) Then, we will be looking at the LOOK. How tall he is, how good he looks, nice body, too fat, too skinny, his hair, his nose, his hand, bla bla bla...
3) Next, we need to look at his family background. Does he come from a good family? How "well known" is the family?
4) Education background. Does he have a masters? Did he graduate from overseas? How qualified is he? Degree? Phd? SPM?
5) Life-style/personality check. Is he a party animal? Is he a party-popper? Is he the serious type? Sit-home-all-day-till-my hair-turns-grey type? I-have-no-friends-except-my-fb-friends type? How about the way he leads his life? Is he stylish? Does he have a great personality?
6) Lastly, and finally... is he pious?
*SIGH*
When I close my eyes, and I think deeply. OMG, if these are what expected from me, I will never be able to get married.
If you ask me, what is your definition of the "RIGHT GUY"? Well, for me, it's pretty simple.
A person who makes me happy, who can provide me with guidance to the right path, and who can provide me with my basic needs. Yes, I do not need a person who can buy me a Ferrari or a10 thousand Prada handbag for me to show off proudly.
It makes me sick in the stomach to even think that there are millions of people dying everyday on the street out of hunger and at the other side of the world, we are buying a handbag worth 10 thousand dollars??
Why do we do that? Why do we wear the most expensive clothes? Because we care what people think of us.
Why do we want to be with the most richest-stable-qualified-influenced guy? Because we care what people think of us.
But, do we care what Allah think of us? Why can't we lead a simple life? Do we bother to help our brothers and sisters who are in need?
Look around you, look at the things we do just because we want to be respected. Just because we fear "what people going to say" about us.
What are we scared of? The society? Not again?? What people going to say? Masya-Allah! We are living in a temporary world.We are all going to die. And no one knows when. Only Allah knows when we will die. So, what is your "property" once you'll die? Unfortunately, we can't bring the million bucks, or the big house or the luxurious things.
Stop judging, everyone. Just stop judging. NO ONE is better than nobody. It does not matter if you are a millionaire or a garbage collector. Have you ever thought that the garbage collector might be in Jannah in the after-life. Maybe he has done a lot of good things in life. Maybe we don't.
I am saying all these as a reminder to myself before everyone.
Remember that Islam is a way of life. It should not be a balance between this and that.
Well, this is a reminder, just in case you forgot. Assalamualikum. Have a great day everyone!
